I always dreamed of having a simple wedding devoid of all those exhaustive rituals… you know… like the ones you see in the movies… where-in couples get married simply by exchanging malas in a temple. (How inexpensive and less time-consuming!) I wanted THAT followed-up with one BIG party.
Tried selling this to my folks and her folks, but then, there weren’t any takers. What shoulda been a simple 1 hour event, morphed into a full 1½ day event. This meant that we had to wear 2 sets of new clothes, given a ritual. Thats Engagement+Morning vratham+Wedding+ Nalangu+ Reception+ Grihapravaesam entry thingy. Check out the Photos.
And then, there were these RITUALS. Thought i could do away with ’em completely since this was a Love Marriage. But we ended-up following all the rituals, which were unique to her family AND mine. (Thanks! Additional 200% more MOOLAH got spent)
And then, there were these GIFTS which need to be given to each others’ folks, prior to the wedding. I was like… baby… can we cancel these out? You know… why blow up money on all these unnecessary things? You see, us Tamilian men, neva give up without a fight.
I backed-off (without showing my puraMudhugu) in 1 tenth of a mill second.
And I wanted to split the wedding cost in the ratio of almost 50:50 with her. (Now you know why i was keen on minimizing the expenditure!) Thought that this was a fair thing to do. What i didn’t realize was that, based on this decision of mine, we ended up spending additional 200% more!
Nalangu is one such ritual which helps the Bride and the Groom break ice (atleast, thats how it was, back in the medieval and ancient times). But i saw this as an opportunity to cash-in on all that lost dough.
A few silver items along with some valuables were placed in a vessel filled up with water. The Bride and the Groom are supposed to fight-it-out and grab as many valuables as possible. But even before i could make a move, she cleared it all out. I mean, not just 1 or 2 items… she took ’em all! 😦 I told myself, that its ok to lose a battle here and there. What really matters is how you win the war.
And now its Deepavali time! The festival of lights is just around the corner! 🙂 We just bought TV, Washing Machine, Refrigerator,Furniture and so on and so forth…. Good that we were able to cash-in on Diwali Sale in Bangalore. OH wait a minute… this means that we both have to send gifts to our respective In-Laws…… Besides that i just gave a 10 month rental security deposit to my landlord and not mention all the other expenditure. Just kidding!
You can call me old-fashioned or whateva, all these years I always used my Debit card to pay for my purchases. For the first time in my life, I am goin actively start using my credit card.
And all this while, i was thinking that, I get to take the call, on how much i wanted to spend for my wedding…. All you young punks out there, let this be some help to you…